Showing posts from April, 2014

Loving the Hater!?

Love is something that everyone likes and hate has no takers.  When you know that someone hates you it is naturally difficult and seemingly impossible to love that person. This is human but not impractical.  It can be achieved by humans who know the art of forgiving. Those who forgive have a hard time forgetting. When both of these states are achieved it becomes possible to even love your hater!  Actually the forgiver begins to find himself in a position where he can see that there is something or the other that led to that person's hate. When he realizes that he uses his wisdom not to instigate that very thing and not to make it obvious every time in front of that person. Actually the hater hates only when he feels uncomfortable about something in you. Either he is jealous, angry or not ready to accept you.  If it is your intelligence, your worth or your position that makes him jealous and hateful then it is easy for you to control the influence in front of that person (provided that…


Parents are like a tree with a dense shade. They protect you, make you feel secure and comfortable. Even when they are not around they have left the warmth and values with you which keep you strong and well placed.  As long as they are alive we must take good care of them and respect them. We might find the changes in them as they grow old in the form of them being a little impatient or irritable but we must understand that they have become like children again in this frail age.  As they were cheerful and patient with us when we were small and made numerous demands we should try our best to be a little forbearing and patient with them. God loves those who are obedient and kind to their parents.  Let us put our best in taking care of our parents if they are with us and if they have passed away, the best thing we can do now is do make lots of prayers for them and give in charity so that God keep showering His blessings on them. Keep your duty and be patient with them especially in their old a…

Keeping busy.

The secret is keeping busy doing constructive and beneficial things. Keeping busy has lots of advantages. A person who keeps herself occupied has no time to waste. She has no time for over thinking and taking tension. It is a great blessing in the sense that she does not bother about the negativity in life.  When one keeps busy with some or the other work that she likes and loves to do she does not have time to needlessly think about others. She has all the things around her but she just does not have spare time to brood over unnecessary things in life. When we keep busy with things we do not pay much attention to the views and opinions of others about us. sometimes those views harm us in the way that they hurt and discourage us. But if a person is too busy she will not have enough time to think over what others said about her or what somebody did to her which made her feel bad. She remembers everything but as she is busy she is not getting time for all these things which is a good sign…

Personal Touch

I had never been good at judging others although I had been a student of Psychology for many years. I have come to realize that no bookish knowledge can be beneficial for you until you get to have some practical experiences related to it. Whatsoever we read in books does not seem to go into our heads until we get a first hand experience of it.

It is expected of a psychology student that he/she might be having a good understanding of the human behavior, but when real life situations occur whereby one needs to have such an understanding of the persons around we require some period of time to achieve it.

You actually need to get interacted with the person and that too for a good period of time to get a glimpse into his/her nature and behavior. It is possible only over a time-period that one really gets to know people.

Otherwise, only a part of the personality is revealed to us. When we actually live with someone then we know him better. Also, long-lasting friendships and marriages are good…

Just Around the Corner

They are playing hide and seek. The first one has to run around the streets, lanes and by-lanes, cross-roads and junctions and go about the place anywhere.  The second one is supposed to hide somewhere in any of these areas and show up at any corner of the street suddenly.  As soon as the second hiding playmate finds the first one at any point the game is over for the first one. She will lose and the second one will be the winner.  The first one just keeps on taking the tour of the place and during the game she forgets that her playmate will come by at any point and catch her.  For a while during her running around and touring in the game she forgets about the partner and enjoys her journey around the lanes and by-lanes.  At some place she finds beautiful flowers so she stops by and smells them. At the other corner she finds an ice-cream cart and she buys one for herself and enjoys it.  Then she moves on and finds new places to discover and gets fascinated by the buildings, beautiful houses…

Have Faith.

As human beings we are weak and erring. No one on the face of this earth is perfect. It is natural that we forget, fall into error and make mistakes. This does not mean that we will not be conscious of it. It simply means that we do not do all these mistakes and wrongs purposely, deliberately or intentionally rather we are caught in a moment of weakness, forgetfulness, negligence, irresponsible behavior and the promptings of the devil. Any of the mentioned things can happen and make us do the thing in the undesirable way.  The thing which is now to keep in mind is that we realize that we have done something wrong. It keeps us poking and twitching in our heart to the point that we are unable to get it off our thoughts. This is the first step toward the journey of self analysis and finally self actualization. We have realized that we have done some bad thing. First we recognize it as something bad and secondly we accept that we have done it.  From this step begin the other steps which can…