Wednesday, April 30, 2014

Loving the Hater!?

And not equal are the good deed and the bad. Repel [evil] by that [deed] which is better; and thereupon the one whom between you and him is enmity [will become] as though he was a devoted friend. 
The Noble Quran 

Love is something that everyone likes and hate has no takers. 
When you know that someone hates you it is naturally difficult and seemingly impossible to love that person. This is human but not impractical.  It can be achieved by humans who know the art of forgiving. Those who forgive have a hard time forgetting. When both of these states are achieved it becomes possible to even love your hater! 
Actually the forgiver begins to find himself in a position where he can see that there is something or the other that led to that person's hate. When he realizes that he uses his wisdom not to instigate that very thing and not to make it obvious every time in front of that person.
Actually the hater hates only when he feels uncomfortable about something in you. Either he is jealous, angry or not ready to accept you. 
If it is your intelligence, your worth or your position that makes him jealous and hateful then it is easy for you to control the influence in front of that person (provided that you like to forgive and stay peaceful and calm with him). 
The positive thing that the hater offers you is the feeling that there is something in you that is worth a thought!!
What will hate benefit him with anyway? Hatred does harm both the hater and the hated one. Learn what makes him hate you and then try not to flaunt that when you confront him. Your thoughtfulness and kindness can turn his hate into love! This can happen, has happened and will happen only when you want to replace his hatred with love, when you want to free him of this discomfort and when you want to forgive and forget! Difficult it is, for sure. But isn't love better than hatred? Isn't harmony better than discord? 
Spread love, replace hatred, try to forgive and do not flaunt your brilliance all the time! 
When you come to the hater with warmth, giving him worth, showing him that even his worst feelings didn't put you off, for it wasn't for the things that he hated but for the person that you actually were behind all your shine and worth; a simple person, a loving and peaceful person. A person who prefers love over hatred. 
Which one do you want to hit?

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