All of us want good friends, good colleagues, good neighbours, good spouses, well-behaving and obedient children and good acquaintances. We want to be in touch with people who don't pester us, irritate us, cause us trouble or harm us. We want understanding friends, kind neighbours, adjusting colleagues and reliable acquaintances.
All this is natural. Each one of us wants to live in peace therefore we normally hear people saying, 'live and let live'. But little do we realize that we have a major role to play in this regard. We know that despite of our being good some people still do not behave well but that does not stop us from being our best.
We must never let unjustified victimization shatter us not let the aggressor have his or her way but there are some cool ways to keep all this at bay if we try.
It is allowed to teach a lesson to those who trouble you constantly but there are other ways to tackle such ignorant and troublesome people.
If possible do not let the ignorance of others pave the way for you being ignorant and misbehaving. It is much better and dignified to ignore such people in silence. Falling into an argument and then into a fight only stresses our nerves and eventually we might see no change in that person. Arguing mostly leads to nasty exchange of words and igniting the fire of hatred and animosity. Arguing with such ignorant and senseless people only increases our stress and we reach nowhere in our effort to make things better.
When all the people out there are hell bent on causing trouble, victimizing, terrorizing, irritating or discouraging you or others, all you need to do is to be a blessing for all!
Be a blessing by not contributing in the hateful arguments, ignorant rantings, foolish and baseless justifications, proving your point and demeaning others.
Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "I guarantee a house in Jannah for one who gives up arguing, even if he is in the right; and I guarantee a home in the middle of Jannah for one who abandons lying even for the sake of fun; and I guarantee a house in the highest part of Jannah for one who has good manners." [Abu Dawud].
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "A true believer is not involved in taunting, or frequently cursing (others) or in indecency or abusing."
Instead of falling into useless talks that waste our time and energy let us contribute to the peace and harmony that is still there because of such people who, by the Will of God, ignore, forgive, forget and forbear the nonsense of the ignorant people.
The first useful weapon is nothing but silence. You must not react at the first instance of provocation by someone.
I always believe that sometimes keeping out of the scene is rewarding, avoiding the limelight is satisfying and not trying to win all the arguments, the best for ourselves and the whole environment.
Today, many of us believe that we must answer others and teach them a lesson. This is okay, but letting go is sometimes the best way to teach them a lesson. Sometimes people just try to cause trouble to you because of reasons that vary-it might be their nature, upbringing, attention-seeking behaviour, jealousy, hatred, prejudice etc.
Be intelligent, wise and cool. Be forgiving and patient. This way it will be easier for you to
BE A BLESSING
and earn a heavy reward both in this world and the Hereafter. The reward in this world will be the peace and satisfaction that you will feel and the reward of Hereafter is promised by God for those who forgive and let go.