Standard of Loving


The train had started moving ahead slowly, Those who had come to see her off came near her window to say goodbye to her. She too waved her hand and looked back from the moving train to have a final look at everyone. She could see him standing a bit far from eveyone else. He did not say goodbye to her but she could sense the wish in his eyes. For the first time in her life she could feel as if she is leaving a part of her heart behind. Literally some piece seemed missing in her heart. She could not know if it was love.
She had seen him attending to his ailing father. They had barely talked to each other. Sometimes she could only catch him looking at her but could only see him lost somewhere else. He seemed too dutiful and serious. There was no affair and no confessions.Something was being planned by God to happen later. She always felt strange when he was around; hesitant and shy. They never had a proper conversation or eye contact to read each other's heart and mind.

What impressed her about him was his selfless service to his father. She witnessed a dutiful son religiously attending and taking care of his father. Her heart filled with respect and admiration for him.

What if you did not have a love-affair but be sure that all your affairs are done in love.  

Love is not something which can be defined easily. Generally people understand it in terms of roses, beauty and romance but love is much higher than all these superficial things. The depth of love can be understood only when you rise above the trivialities and attractions that are short lived.

I believe that all marriages are love marriages because marriage itself demands love between the spouses which is higher than the short lived fascinations and infatuations of the heart. Marriage is a life long affair and it is up to us to make it a love affair with a higher purpose of creating harmony and standard in a society that starts from home.

About those passionate love skits I would say that it is not the cupid that strikes rather it is the stupid that is at work.



So, coming back to the story I started with, their attraction was above all the glamour of beauty, money, style or mere desire. What captured her heart was his values and not his physical being.
When you like someone because of his goodness and values he seems to you the most handsome person in the world.

Even after coming back from that memorable vacation at her aunt's place she was quite lost. She was going through something that she never imagined happening to her. It was strange that God had planned those hearts to meet this way and to feel the bonding for each other because later they were to be united by Him in marriage!

And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought. 30:21 Quran 

Some time passed and she witnessed how surprisingly she was married to the person whom she admired for his sincerity, integrity and kindness.

All her married life she observed these values in him and learned to be kind, giving, caring, selfless and highly value oriented. Love seems to be a simple word in front of the greatness of their emotions for each other.


The priceless gift of life is love, with the help from God above. Love can change the human race, make this World a better place. For love dissolves all hate and fear, it makes our vision bright and clear, So we can see and rise above our pettiness on the wings of love.

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